Oh boy, it's going to
be a long season. Stay calm, take deep breathes, don't get too
excited...just relax.
Yeah right! Me stay
calm?
Wrestling is not for the light at heart. It's not for the
pampering moms who fuss over their boy's every little scratch and scrap, caring
for it as though it was a large gash in a main artery.
It's for crazy, wild, loud moms who want nothing more than
to see their sons smash another kid's head into the ground, flip him over and
with an arm around his neck and wrenching back on his leg, pin him so hard that
the kid forgets how to breath and begs for mercy. Walk away crying? Bonus to the win!
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| That's Ryan on top in his first wrestling match ever. He won, 16 to 10! |
WHAT AM I SAYING! Wait
a minute....stop, I'm a good mom. I'm
not supposed to say that. I'm supposed
to say " Winning isn't everything " and then there's the "You're
all winners."
Sigh.... Well... there's been a lot discussion around these
topics in my house over the years and I can't say that the end result was my
kids thinking they are always winners and that winning isn't important.
They know that
sometimes they lose. Whether it's karate, baseball, basketball,
track or wraslin, one person or team wins and the other person or team does
not. They lose. Psssst...it really is okay to say the word
"lose" to your kids. I promise
it won't send him into therapy, well, not for very long any way.
"Be a good sport.
Do your best. Try hard. We'll be
proud of you no matter what." Sure
I tell my boys that all the time, before every sporting event, every big school
project or test, or anything else they are involved in that is important to
them.
However, they also know that striving for success is not an
option. We try, try harder, get back up
when we fail and try again. We don't
give up. If you don't win, what did you
learn to help you be better next time and were you a good sport? Did you show respect to your partner and thus
showing respect to yourself?
That's a winning
attitude!
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| Jarred is on top. He won 10 to 0! Nice! |
So what's wrong with this mentality that winning is important? I
don't think there's anything wrong with it. I think it's reality. As adults we
have successes and failures? We get the
promotion or we don't? We get accepted
or not? Pass or Fail? I think it's our
job as parents to teach our kids how to be successful. Push them a little. Teach them about not
giving up. Of course we need to balance
that with teaching them that they won't
always win. Teach them how to loose with
dignity. How to try harder the next
time. We can't just shove them out into
the real world without knowing how to deal with failure or success.
And oh please, my kids don't always win. I am not one of
those psycho parents arguing with the referees and punishing my kids for
loosing. My kids are not always good
sports. They are human too and
fail. Trust me, we've had our share of melt
downs over the years from loosing. But I
am that loud mouth mom who is screaming her fool head off while her sons are
WRASLIN and squeezing the stuffin out of them when they are done...win or lose.
I am their biggest supporter. Life
is hard. Life lessons are hard but I am
a firm believe that every experience makes up a better person. We choose our path and the attitude in which
we chose to walk down that path. Teach
your kids about the reality of life and support the heck out of them. That's what will teach them to grow up into
men.
So wrestling or wraslin?
Well wrestling is for boys and wraslin is for men. I'm raising men, so in this house, it's
wraslin!
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